Have you ever realized how difficult it is to forgive someone?
I mean when you are really angry or upset with someone, can you simply let him or her get away with it and say nothing in a situation when you actually feel like giving them a piece of your mind?
It is in fact one of the most difficult things to do for most people. But the irony is that it is one of the most essential things to do in life.
To develop a rock hard and strong mental mindset.
There are 2 important steps that you need to take in life in order to achieve a mentally strong mindset; to let go and to set your mind free.
By letting go, I mean letting go of things that are not meant for you, letting go of negativity, of people who bring you down, people who are toxic and negative etc. And in order to do that, you need to forgive.
Forgive people who may have hurt you or your loved ones or people who may have harmed you in some way, not for their sake but for you. You need to let go of things that trigger negative emotions like anger and sadness in your mind so that you can set your mind free and move on for a happier better future.
Yes, I know, it is a challenge and only the strong minded can do it. It takes courage and patience, but it’s totally worth it!
Here are some steps you can take to achieve that:
- Accept things as they are – Most often when you find yourself in a situation where you’re frustrated with someone, you feel the need to change or alter the person’s behaviour or mannerisms. That is definitely not a right thing to do. You may also want to change the way some things are. But you need to accept people and situations for what they are and let go.
You need to realize that it is not up to you to change another person. The more you try to make that happen, the more you get upset. Hence, the wise thing to do is to come to terms with the situation, let go of the need to change it and move on.
- Let go of vengeance – Some people often feel the need to get back at someone who did wrong to them. Again, all it does is keep you stuck in some negative things of the past and prevent you from moving on to a happier life. As a matter of fact, one of the best ways to get back at someone if you really want to, is to simply let go and stop being bothered. That will definitely get the other person confused.
Another thing to remember is to forgive yourself too. Every time you feel you did something wrong, remember that the feeling of realization is itself one of the best ways to make up for it. So don’t be too hard on yourself and let go of that too.
Keep these pointers in mind every time you find yourself not being able to forget and forgive. Make a conscious effort to follow these steps and in no time, you will be well on your way to achieving a strong mind.
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